Dear Annie: How do I approach my new boyfriend about a touchy subject without offending him? He rarely gives me compliments.
I’d like to tell him that his lack of appreciation makes me feel less desirable, but I don’t want it to seem as if I’m criticizing him.
I want to express my feelings lovingly and help him understand how much his words would mean to me. Any advice on how to bring this up thoughtfully? — Needs to Hear It
Dear Hear It: Everyone has different needs in a relationship, and his way of expressing affection might not come through verbal communication.
Try looking for ways his actions might be complimenting you.
That said, he may simply not realize how much you value verbal compliments, so don’t hesitate to let him know, just as you explained in your letter.
Also, remember to offer him compliments; we get what we give.
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