DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a full-time, unpaid caregiver for my husband. My days are spent managing his doctor’s appointments and medications, driving him, and making sure he is safe, fed and clean.
On her occasional visits, his daughter has nothing but criticism for me. What is the appropriate response?
GENTLE READER: To give the daughter private time with her father.
When she visits, you should excuse yourself, leaving whatever instructions are necessary for his care. You may have to sprint out the door before she can protest.
When you return, you should thank your stepdaughter for coming, and ask when you might expect her again. You might suggest some times that would be convenient for you to be relieved.
Miss Manners does not want you to think of this as shirking your duty; the change will be good for your husband, as well as for you.
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