Dear Annie: I’m having an issue with my partner of six years, “Alex.” I love him deeply, and he’s a truly amazing guy. But we have different views on marriage.
I’ve always dreamed of having a traditional wedding and starting a family. I think weddings are a beautiful way to show your commitment to each other. Alex, on the other hand, is hesitant about marriage due to his parents’ messy divorce.
How do I navigate this situation without sacrificing my own desires or pressuring Alex into something he’s not ready for? I want to respect his feelings while still honoring my own values. Any advice on finding common ground would be appreciated. — Torn Between Traditions
Dear Torn: Navigating differing views on marriage can be tricky, but communication is key. Sit down with Alex and have an open, honest conversation about your desires and your concerns. Listen to his perspective, too; what are his fears, exactly? Is there a way for him to overcome them?
Understanding where he’s coming from might help you both find common ground. Maybe there’s a compromise where you can honor your desire for commitment without the pressure of a traditional wedding. A couples counselor can help you two find common ground and create a plan for the future.
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